I’ve been told that shingles vaccine is a live vaccine. I wasn’t able to have my Mother vaccinated with because she took immune suppressing medications. I too was a caregiver. My regrets are the times I was short and resented being one. My Mother passed away in 2019. I miss her terribly. My plan was to retire and care for her permanently as my other co caregiver ( my Father) gave me a lot of trouble . I coped by Praying to God to give me strength each day. Towards the last two years of her life I accepted being a caregiver and determined to have a better attitude. I worked full time as well. My Mother deserved better. Please feel free if you need to vent. I’ll totally understand.
I appreciate that. "My regrets are the times I was short and resented being one." - This is where I'm at right now. I feel completely disconnected from her, like I'm caring for a distant relative.
"I accepted being a caregiver and determined to have a better attitude." - This is where I'm trying to get to, but I'm not there yet.
She recently had a visit with the HoV (hospice) doctor that's assigned to her. We told her that she's not having as many bowel movements, and she said that it could be one of two things; 1) her organs are slowly starting to slow down or 2) not enough liquids. She said less starch, more fiber. I can honestly say she doesn't drink as much water as she used to. We have to initiate it.
I’m so so sorry to hear she is in hospice. Your disconnection may be shock. I couldn’t cry at my Mother’s funeral. My unsolicited advice to you is to ask her any questions you may have before God forbid, she can’t answer you. I never asked my Mother who she got her beautiful nose from. I asked her surviving sisters and received different answers from each. My sisters were angry with me because I spent time talking to two old neighbors I hadn’t seen since I was a teen at her wake. Nevermind that one of my sisters went on vacation to HI after she passed. My Mother’s comadre told me she thought I was in shock. In retrospect I was. I didn’t expect her to pass when she did. I thought it was business as usual the day of her event.
So, typically, hospice means 'end of life quickly', however, my Mom isn't there yet. She's declining slowly and she's in the program--and utilizes their services--because she requires 24/7 care. But it's occurring in the home. The three of us (me, Dad, older sister) take care of her, the nurse comes once a week to check on her, and we have a CNA that comes twice a week to bathe her. My sister and I tap in/out every Sunday (read: live with them), so my Dad is with her the majority of the time. I'm sorry she's in hospice, too, but they've been amazing and amazingly supportive.
The questions we want to ask are the ones we're afraid will trigger a negative response, but according to my Dad, she remembers some things from the past. She forgets all the time that she's the only remaining living member of the family on her side. She doesn't remember who my Dad is sometimes and she remembers that she has daughters, but she thinks we're still young.
You're probably right about the shock. I think we've all been in a state of shock since the official diagnosis and the changes that we're seeing in her. I feel my grief may manifest into something similar to your sister who went to HI after your mother passed. I want to live overseas but won't be able to until they both pass (well, and find a remote job). I don't want to leave the responsibility of their care to my sister. That wouldn't be fair to her.
I appreciate your comments and insight. Thank you for reading.
Oh, Ororo! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with shingles. :( I had the vaccine--you have to get two--the side effects each time were two days of feeling totally flu-ish, but then OK. I'm so sorry about your new B-Barbie boss. Lordt, when it rains... She might have a change of heart after being so daft on the first day, if not... your instincts will tell you. I know how challenging the care work is... Mad respect to you for handling it all. xo-A
Glad your shingles are getting better. I’ve heard they’re nasty and the chicken pox majorly suck so I can only imagine. Your coworker sounds like a real treat 🤦🏼♀️ Her follow up email was good so hoping for your sake that’s the side you’ll have to deal with in the meantime. If I hear or see anything on the job front, I’ll definitely let you know.
Getting the chickenpox when you're older, yes, it TRULY sucks. I'm still amazed that I didn't get it when I was younger because my sister and I were sharing a room! And a bed!! (we'd just moved back to AZ from NV and were waiting for our house to be built). She got it, but I never did. And when I did, I wanted to reskin myself I itched so bad. Still have the scars to prove it.
As for this minor flare-up, thank God it was just the small area. Although, I have these patches of dry skin on my arms like it TRIED to flare-up but didn't. Needless to say, after I'm healed, I'm gonna to a spa and make sure I get some sort of exfoliating body treatment. I haven't done that in a minute.
Ororo, you made me glad I got those shots! So sorry, my friend. I'm glad you got it under control. Hop on Indeed and look for something remote. I'm still working a day job. They are nice people, it's just not work that makes my soul sing. Get something that can support you while you build the career you want. It's out there. xo
I'm ixnaying the vaccine as well because I've heard the same results! And seeing as how I already have some experimental something floating around in my blood stream, I don't want anything else. LOL
Poor you. It must be so painful. My daughter had it years ago and could barely put clothes on. I’m glad it’s scabbing over. Look after yourself. The stress is real!!
Shingles sounds awful. I’ve had the chicken pox (so my mother tells me) but yet to experience a shingles outbreak. Hope you are on the up and up. Sorry about the boss. Ugh.
I swear the little patch I had on the back of my thigh STILL hurts like a month or more later.
Really? Do you have any scarring?
Not really, because it was small and I think I have so much cellulite it couldn't penetrate LOL Like armor.
I’ve been told that shingles vaccine is a live vaccine. I wasn’t able to have my Mother vaccinated with because she took immune suppressing medications. I too was a caregiver. My regrets are the times I was short and resented being one. My Mother passed away in 2019. I miss her terribly. My plan was to retire and care for her permanently as my other co caregiver ( my Father) gave me a lot of trouble . I coped by Praying to God to give me strength each day. Towards the last two years of her life I accepted being a caregiver and determined to have a better attitude. I worked full time as well. My Mother deserved better. Please feel free if you need to vent. I’ll totally understand.
I appreciate that. "My regrets are the times I was short and resented being one." - This is where I'm at right now. I feel completely disconnected from her, like I'm caring for a distant relative.
"I accepted being a caregiver and determined to have a better attitude." - This is where I'm trying to get to, but I'm not there yet.
She recently had a visit with the HoV (hospice) doctor that's assigned to her. We told her that she's not having as many bowel movements, and she said that it could be one of two things; 1) her organs are slowly starting to slow down or 2) not enough liquids. She said less starch, more fiber. I can honestly say she doesn't drink as much water as she used to. We have to initiate it.
I’m so so sorry to hear she is in hospice. Your disconnection may be shock. I couldn’t cry at my Mother’s funeral. My unsolicited advice to you is to ask her any questions you may have before God forbid, she can’t answer you. I never asked my Mother who she got her beautiful nose from. I asked her surviving sisters and received different answers from each. My sisters were angry with me because I spent time talking to two old neighbors I hadn’t seen since I was a teen at her wake. Nevermind that one of my sisters went on vacation to HI after she passed. My Mother’s comadre told me she thought I was in shock. In retrospect I was. I didn’t expect her to pass when she did. I thought it was business as usual the day of her event.
God will Bless you for your kindness!
So, typically, hospice means 'end of life quickly', however, my Mom isn't there yet. She's declining slowly and she's in the program--and utilizes their services--because she requires 24/7 care. But it's occurring in the home. The three of us (me, Dad, older sister) take care of her, the nurse comes once a week to check on her, and we have a CNA that comes twice a week to bathe her. My sister and I tap in/out every Sunday (read: live with them), so my Dad is with her the majority of the time. I'm sorry she's in hospice, too, but they've been amazing and amazingly supportive.
The questions we want to ask are the ones we're afraid will trigger a negative response, but according to my Dad, she remembers some things from the past. She forgets all the time that she's the only remaining living member of the family on her side. She doesn't remember who my Dad is sometimes and she remembers that she has daughters, but she thinks we're still young.
You're probably right about the shock. I think we've all been in a state of shock since the official diagnosis and the changes that we're seeing in her. I feel my grief may manifest into something similar to your sister who went to HI after your mother passed. I want to live overseas but won't be able to until they both pass (well, and find a remote job). I don't want to leave the responsibility of their care to my sister. That wouldn't be fair to her.
I appreciate your comments and insight. Thank you for reading.
Oh, Ororo! I'm so sorry you've had to deal with shingles. :( I had the vaccine--you have to get two--the side effects each time were two days of feeling totally flu-ish, but then OK. I'm so sorry about your new B-Barbie boss. Lordt, when it rains... She might have a change of heart after being so daft on the first day, if not... your instincts will tell you. I know how challenging the care work is... Mad respect to you for handling it all. xo-A
Yeahhhh, I'm ixnaying the vaccine. I already have experimental shit running through my veins, I'm not trying to inject anything else.
Glad your shingles are getting better. I’ve heard they’re nasty and the chicken pox majorly suck so I can only imagine. Your coworker sounds like a real treat 🤦🏼♀️ Her follow up email was good so hoping for your sake that’s the side you’ll have to deal with in the meantime. If I hear or see anything on the job front, I’ll definitely let you know.
Getting the chickenpox when you're older, yes, it TRULY sucks. I'm still amazed that I didn't get it when I was younger because my sister and I were sharing a room! And a bed!! (we'd just moved back to AZ from NV and were waiting for our house to be built). She got it, but I never did. And when I did, I wanted to reskin myself I itched so bad. Still have the scars to prove it.
As for this minor flare-up, thank God it was just the small area. Although, I have these patches of dry skin on my arms like it TRIED to flare-up but didn't. Needless to say, after I'm healed, I'm gonna to a spa and make sure I get some sort of exfoliating body treatment. I haven't done that in a minute.
Perfect excuse for some spa time and an exfoliating treatment for sure 😊
Ororo, you made me glad I got those shots! So sorry, my friend. I'm glad you got it under control. Hop on Indeed and look for something remote. I'm still working a day job. They are nice people, it's just not work that makes my soul sing. Get something that can support you while you build the career you want. It's out there. xo
I do have my resume up on there. And on ZipRecruiter. And I switched my LinkedIn profile to looking for work.
Glad the shingles are mild. I’m avoiding the vaccine. Hubby had it and had wicked side effects.
I’d give your boss another chance. She’s trying to make up for having a stupid first day. Strike two and she’s out.
Your parents are sooo lucky to have you and sis. Major mitzvah. 🙏👏
I'm ixnaying the vaccine as well because I've heard the same results! And seeing as how I already have some experimental something floating around in my blood stream, I don't want anything else. LOL
Poor you. It must be so painful. My daughter had it years ago and could barely put clothes on. I’m glad it’s scabbing over. Look after yourself. The stress is real!!
Not as painful as it could've been if it had spread. It's just a small patch. Thankfully.
Shingles sounds awful. I’ve had the chicken pox (so my mother tells me) but yet to experience a shingles outbreak. Hope you are on the up and up. Sorry about the boss. Ugh.
Yep. It's scabbing over nicely.