Dang, Ororo. I'm so sorry to hear about this. There is nothing but complexity when it comes to suddenly becoming a caregiver to a loved one in the healthcare system. I hope you all are taking care over each other and giving one another little snippets of respite as you are able! And really appreciate the way you articulate the journey.... there is nothing direct/one-way from point A to point B about it.
I'm so sorry, Ororo. I can only imagine the stress you and yours are dealing with, and the adrenaline rush every time the phone rings or dings. I hope you get a chance every once in a while to catch your breath and have some time for you. I hope that for your dad and sister, too. xo
Oh my god, I'm so sorry--I've just been through this exact same thing with my dad and his heart and then with my own cosplaying Marie Antoinette in the living room during a seizure. It was like a scene from Dexter. Your whole routine shifts with all the drugs and sleeping nonstop and medical interventions... Hoping things start to even out and get better very soon!
Argh is right. Hard times for her and for all of you. Thank heavens you have your Sis and your Dad. It won't change what's happening, but at least you have each other during this time.
My mom had Alzheimer's. It dragged on for 12 years - far longer than most people. My Dad tried taking care of her, then we went down the path of part time help, then live in help, then finally a facility. That happened after she fell and broke her hip.
Of course I don't know your situation, if it's possible to look into moving her somewhere where she could get daily care.
Janice Walton writes an interesting Substack called Aging Well. Her husband passed after going through Alzheimer's. She offers a lot of resources for people to consider. Here's the link: https://agingwell.news/
The broken hip sitch always seems to be the deciding factor. This very same thing happened to my mom's mom. She was living with my parents and then ended up in the hospital for some reason. When she tried getting out of the hospital bed, she fell and broke her hip. And that's when they could no longer take care of her and had to put her in a home care facility. We're trying to keep her home as long as possible. And we're going to have an in-home care person starting on the 12th of the month. But she's only coming for two days a week. My Sis gets to WFH three days a week, so she comes over and does that from here and then goes home for the night. It's not ideal. She lives hella far and I can't imagine the mileage she's racking up on her car, but it is what it is for now. My Dad turns 81 next month; he has a hernia that keeps popping out (he has an appt this month to get it looked at and I'm betting he's going to need surgery. Again) so Sis and I are doing the heavy lifting. And sometimes, it really is heavy since she can be deadweight at times.
So sorry about your mom’s falls. Aging really sucks and I can’t imagine how hard it must be to watch her change physically and mentally so much. Thanks for being so open and sharing your journey with all of this.
Dang, Ororo. I'm so sorry to hear about this. There is nothing but complexity when it comes to suddenly becoming a caregiver to a loved one in the healthcare system. I hope you all are taking care over each other and giving one another little snippets of respite as you are able! And really appreciate the way you articulate the journey.... there is nothing direct/one-way from point A to point B about it.
I'm so sorry, Ororo. I can only imagine the stress you and yours are dealing with, and the adrenaline rush every time the phone rings or dings. I hope you get a chance every once in a while to catch your breath and have some time for you. I hope that for your dad and sister, too. xo
Thanks. Much appreciated.
Oh my god, I'm so sorry--I've just been through this exact same thing with my dad and his heart and then with my own cosplaying Marie Antoinette in the living room during a seizure. It was like a scene from Dexter. Your whole routine shifts with all the drugs and sleeping nonstop and medical interventions... Hoping things start to even out and get better very soon!
Argh is right. Hard times for her and for all of you. Thank heavens you have your Sis and your Dad. It won't change what's happening, but at least you have each other during this time.
My mom had Alzheimer's. It dragged on for 12 years - far longer than most people. My Dad tried taking care of her, then we went down the path of part time help, then live in help, then finally a facility. That happened after she fell and broke her hip.
Of course I don't know your situation, if it's possible to look into moving her somewhere where she could get daily care.
Janice Walton writes an interesting Substack called Aging Well. Her husband passed after going through Alzheimer's. She offers a lot of resources for people to consider. Here's the link: https://agingwell.news/
Hugs....
The broken hip sitch always seems to be the deciding factor. This very same thing happened to my mom's mom. She was living with my parents and then ended up in the hospital for some reason. When she tried getting out of the hospital bed, she fell and broke her hip. And that's when they could no longer take care of her and had to put her in a home care facility. We're trying to keep her home as long as possible. And we're going to have an in-home care person starting on the 12th of the month. But she's only coming for two days a week. My Sis gets to WFH three days a week, so she comes over and does that from here and then goes home for the night. It's not ideal. She lives hella far and I can't imagine the mileage she's racking up on her car, but it is what it is for now. My Dad turns 81 next month; he has a hernia that keeps popping out (he has an appt this month to get it looked at and I'm betting he's going to need surgery. Again) so Sis and I are doing the heavy lifting. And sometimes, it really is heavy since she can be deadweight at times.
So sorry about your mom’s falls. Aging really sucks and I can’t imagine how hard it must be to watch her change physically and mentally so much. Thanks for being so open and sharing your journey with all of this.